Was Racism the Reason for Meghan and Harry's Departure?

Updated on February 5, 2020
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Psychologist Nell is fascinated with all aspects of human nature and race issues. Why do we act the way we do?

Harry and Meghan
Harry and Meghan

They are turning it [the royal family] into a Walmart with a crown on it.

— Thomas Markle

Thomas Markle: This Is Not the Girl I Raised

Thomas Markle says that Meghan is not the girl he raised; she has achieved 'every girl’s dream' of becoming a 'princess' but is now foolishly 'tossing it away'. Not only that, but Meghan's father also stated that 'this is one of the greatest long-living institutions ever. They are destroying it, they are cheapening it, making it shabby… they shouldn’t be doing this'.

Meghan's brother, Tom Markle, said their father would die a happy man if he could just see his grandson, and that Meghan wouldn't be anywhere without our father.

According to Tom, Meghan's father, 'paid for her education, car, clothes, rent, bills, spending money at uni. A small fortune and that’s what put her on her way. It’s great that Meg goes to women’s centres and so on, that’s brilliant. But she does need to look out for her family, too.'

It’s kind of embarrassing… When they got married, they took an obligation. And the obligation is to be part of the royals and to represent the royals, and it would be foolish for them not to.

— Thomas Markle

Meghan's Father Speaks Out

Are Meghan and Harry Leaving Because of Racism?

The media has been on a huge buzzfest about Meghan Markle and Prince Harry leaving the Royal family and heading out on their own. Strangely enough, it has caused more of a scandal than Prince Andrew's, er, debacle.

There is much speculation around the whys and the whats of the situation. But out of all the hoo-ha, there is one thing that keeps raising its ugly head: racism.

And this particular argument has caused as much, if not more, of a reason to shout at the TV. Meghan Markle is mixed race. Her father, Thomas, is a white American who is a retired lighting director and photographer. Meghan's mother is Doria Ragland, a black American woman.

Meghan Markle
Meghan Markle

Why Are They Stepping Back?

The marriage between Meghan Markle and Prince Harry was a huge lavish affair, paid for by the British taxpayer. Along with their new house, Frogmore Cottage was also refurbished at great expense by the taxpayer, and the British people believe we have had a bum deal. They have been married for less than two years and were expected to carry out royal duties as Harry has done all his life.

The last thing the public was expecting was this sudden departure, not only from the royal family and their duties, but also from the country itself.

So what caused it? The initial reason was that Harry was having mental problems, along with stress. And Meghan was also suffering from stress caused by being thrown into the royal family and needing time out. But was there more to it? And had it been planned for some time?

Was the British Press Racist?

Strangely enough, after searching newspaper after newspaper, I couldn't find one instance of racism against Meghan.

One puzzling comment suggested that 'Meghan was told not to cross her legs in public.' But if it had been Kate it would be fine. Not sure where the racism is there, though.

That isn't to say there hasn't been racism on website platforms. Words used to describe Meghan have included: self-loathing race traitor, trailer trash, Meghan the queen of monkey island (which is absolutely appalling), witch, cow, and others which I won't repeat here.

Most of the abuse came a few days after Meghan and Harry had outed the media for racism. So it seems to me that racism came from social media and not the newspapers. But even so, it is a terrible and appalling thing to happen.

But what about the so-called racism from the newspapers? As we know, at first the tabloids regarding Harry and Meghan spouted out headlines such as: 'How lovely it is to see a diverse relationship in the Royal Family', 'Modern times! A mixed race person in the Royals!' and 'A new era is upon us!'

Was Priti Patel, the Home Secretary, racist?
Was Priti Patel, the Home Secretary, racist?

Did Hatred of Meghan Start on Social Media?

But which way round was it? Were Twitter and other sites racist because Meghan's mother was black, or did Meghan herself claim it was the reason and thereby blow up the conversation about her race?

Well, in my opinion, it was a bit of both. But the main question that has been asked is this: Was Meghan using her race as an excuse to opt out and run? And that, I believe, is the million-dollar question.

According to Priti Patel, the Home Secretary, she hasn't seen any debates or commentaries that show racism, and 'people of any background can get on in life' in Britain. The Home Secretary's grandparents were both born in India, and Priti herself was born in Uganda.

I’m not in that category at all where I believe there’s racism at all. I think we live in a great country, a great society, full of opportunity, where people of any background can get on in life.

— Priti Patel, Home Secretary

Hiding Behind Color

Over the last few weeks, all we have heard from certain members of the public is, 'It's racist, they don't like her because of her color.' To that I say bunkum. That argument is rubbish.

The constant hiding behind color is not only damaging to race relations, but I believe it also promotes, not removes, racism. To constantly say that white people are racist is not only wrong but racist in itself. And what about the non-white person at whom it is directed?

Well, that also denigrates their own race. Why? Because if you constantly yell, 'It's racist!' whenever a person of color is disliked, then it is literally turning that person into just a color. Rather like slamming a door in your own face, if you like.

And what about the person themselves? I actually find it pretty disgusting to think the people yelling "racist" forget that Meghan is a grown woman, a mother, a wife, an actress, and probably a pretty nice person overall. But claiming racism shuts the door on all that. She ends up just a color.

Meghan and Harry cite stress and mental health concerns as motivations for leaving the royal family.
Meghan and Harry cite stress and mental health concerns as motivations for leaving the royal family. | Source

The Final Straw for Harry and Meghan

The final straw came when Meghan and Harry were on their African tour. Meghan and Harry talked about their own stress and how hard it was to be in the royal household, just after visiting children who had lost limbs, homes and family through war and disease. It was in poor taste. And there was more.

This is just my opinion. But I do think some or all of it is relevant.

  • The way Meghan treated and still treats her father is appalling. He brought her up, sent her to college, helped her get into acting, and so on. A few photos in the newspapers of him dressed for a wedding means absolutely nothing—to normal families, at least. In fact, it is quite funny.
  • She still hasn't let her father see her baby.
  • Meghan lost her temper with staff, which resulted in three of them leaving.
  • The Queen tells Meghan off for angry rants at the staff.
  • Meghan threw a tantrum when she demanded a tiara that the Queen told her she couldn't wear.
  • Meghan made Kate cry when she was pregnant by yelling at her.
  • Meghan is suing a newspaper for showing a 'secret' letter to her father, after allowing her friends to publish it in a magazine.

I could go on, but... who is at fault?

We can yell at Meghan and say she has caused all the trouble, but to be fair, she was an independent woman, an actress, when she joined the Royal Family. To be suddenly thrust into the monarchy with all its rules and regulations must have been hard. But then again, she knew what it involved before she married Harry. Maybe she should have stepped away early on in the relationship.

My Prediction

I don't think the marriage will last. Meghan will stay in Canada or America. Harry will come home, tail between the proverbial Royal legs, and lick his wounds.

So, what do you think?

Was race the issue, or was it planned?

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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    • Nell Rose profile imageAUTHOR

      Nell Rose 

      11 hours ago from England

      I agree Peggy. I think we all tend to have forgotten about them now. I am sure they will be happy.

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      Peggy Woods 

      27 hours ago from Houston, Texas

      I just happened to watch a television show titled The Royals, and it went way back in British history to Queen Victoria, and then showed her heirs down to the present day.

      King Edward gave up the throne for love. Not that Harry is a king, but if he has decided to go in the direction of love, supporting Meghan, it is not our part to judge them. It would seem that Meghan and Harry both supported charities when they were single. I think that they will continue doing so even if it is not an official duty related to the British Crown because their hearts lead them on that path.

      Their road may still be bumpy because of the media coverage, but perhaps that will wear off in time for their sake. I wish them well.

    • Nell Rose profile imageAUTHOR

      Nell Rose 

      2 days ago from England

      Thank you Manatita for your wise words.

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      manatita44 

      2 days ago from london

      A good account and it is most certainly in the limelight. I think someone else here have done a piece I read also. Emge tends to be as awesome as Ralph Schwartz on current affairs.

      Now, try as I may, I always revert to spirituality. Forgive me. Isn't Meghan nearly 40? Yoga philosophy is so practical! We are all accountable before God and we all have our path to pave or follow.

      While her father may be in some pain, Meghan is a grown woman who really belongs to no one but God. Not her Father and most certainly not Harry. It is good that he is there for support and human love, but we are all ultimately alone. We have to fight own demons and go the way the soul wishes to take us. It is a personal journey.

      I could say that I feel for dad, but then I know that he is experiencing attachment or 'clinging' like any parent would. I empathise, but both couples ultimately need to go the way that suits them in their quest for happiness … for Love. Too many power and fame humans, discover this, only just before the point of death.

      We cannot be put into boxes. It is a personal journey and we are all accountable. Thank you for giving a balanced account. Much Love.

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      Nell Rose 

      3 weeks ago from England

      Thanks Diane. I am stopping comments now.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 

      3 weeks ago from Fontana

      The internet has exposed people and their true feelings. I'm sure all of us can find something that is unfair. Media gravitates to what will attract watchers. There are many not on social media and and have part in what goes on. Not everyone bashes and it is probably hard to determine the percentage of people that do. You can't let negativity live rent free in your head. Letting bashers know you are upset makes them happy.

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      Nell Rose 

      3 weeks ago from England

      I hate the jew bashing. It makes no sense. They are the only people in history who have never caused a war. Apart from what is happening in israel now, which is wrong on bith sides. Seems i am around 30 percent jewish too. Which i did'nt know until recently. I am also middle east irish scots and norwegian. Seems my family married the world lol!

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      Yves 

      3 weeks ago

      "Hmmm..... Course." As Camilla would say.

      I am also tired of all the white bashing, Mexican bashing, Jew bashing, any color bashing and race baiting. The biggest problem here is actually antisemitism. Sadly, it is on the rise.

      https://www.jpost.com/Opinion/Inconvenient-antisem...

      The AWL was a site created by a couple of people. A sort of blog meant to be very New York weird. I'd never heard of it, not have most people. It ended in 2018. They likely created the "stupid" (as they like to say) cartoons to be controversial.

      Okay. All done here. Said my peace.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      I am just sick of the white bashing. I am watching thomas markle interview. He worshipped her. She disrespected him. Simple.

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      Shannon Henry 

      4 weeks ago from Texas

      Well, at this point, it might be more interesting than the tedious political things being called scandalous around here. :)

    • Nell Rose profile imageAUTHOR

      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      I have discovered that some people just cannot see past color. Someone can be horrible, ignorant, sly and so on, but still people hate because of the color. Therefore I am deleting this hub within the next hour. I give up.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      I am the first to yell racist if I think someone is being that. And that site about Obama is just sick. But Meghan is a totally different case. Why can't people see that?

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Diane, I am aware of how bad it is in America. Over here it is much fairer and balanced. In the case of Meghan, for some reason they keep on about her being black. She is not black! in fact she is as fair as me. she grew up with her white father, her brothers and sisters are white, she is mixed race. Sorry, but her race is nothing to do with her choice of disrespect to the Queen. she didn't even bother speaking to the Queen, just went back to Canada and left Harry to sort it out.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Shannon, her father is about to spill the beans so to speak on British TV in a few minutes, lol!

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      4 weeks ago from now on

      Amen to that! And a badge of honor to those who dare stand up and tell it like it is!

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 

      4 weeks ago from Fontana

      Opportunities to African Americans exist because of the law. Social media has gotten many people fired who were in jobs that enforce discrimination laws. The people didn't realize that what they do and say on social media can get back to their employers. They were fired for doing and saying this on social media that indicate that they may not be fair arbiters in their employment. There are memes of Michelle and Barak Obama all over the internet - as outright apes.

      People don't "not steal" because it is against the law. Laws were made to provide consequences for unacceptable behavior. I looked for a place to upload an image to demonstrate my point. Click this: https://www.theawl.com/2011/04/primate-in-chief-a-...

      I don't know whether or not is A, B, C or D actress. She is educated, articulate and financially independent. I don't know if any of us have attained that status. What does that make us?

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      Shannon Henry 

      4 weeks ago from Texas

      Nell, if you hadn't written this article I surely would have passed it by and written it off as tabloid gossip. However, it is interesting to see things from the perspective of a British citizen rather than another American. Personally, I know next to nothing about either the royal family or Meghan. One thing I definitely do not know enough about if I were to pass that kind of judgment on who she is as a person would be her family background. I am aware that her father has the sympathy of many who follow the media reports, but does the public really know the history of what her home life was like growing up or how he treats her when no one is watching? Even her life within the royal family is not open for full disclosure. Not everyone close to her is able to share what they know about her from knowing her so intimately. It's hard to judge without ever really knowing her or all of the facts.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks Chitrangada, always great to see you!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      4 weeks ago from New Delhi, India

      Great article Nell! I have been following this news, like many others.

      Good to read it, from your perspective, since you live there.

      I feel sad, when relationships get strained, due to whatever reasons. And, it can happen to everyone, even if they are Royals.

      Thanks for sharing.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Dora, I hope so too Dora, maybe we are all wrong about them. Of course Harry is to blame just as much. But what do we know? Thanks as always. (And I still want to call you Miss Dora!) LOL!

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Yves, of course you are entitled to your opinion.And I do agree, we are told what to say, do etc. I hate racism, in fact people who are racist are just thick as well, you can guess! lol! But I do believe sometimes that a person, in this case, Meghan is capable of deceit, and it shouldn't be overshadowed by her DNA.

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      Yves 

      4 weeks ago

      Nell....You do not have to print this because what I am about to say is politically incorrect.... and in this country today, being non PC is practically a crime. HP and others will hate me for this, but hey, I always try to keep it real.

      Anyway, I want you to know something. The majority of Americans are not the racist buffoons some people and especially certain American politicians make us out to be. Things have changed dramatically. People of color are in positions of power. We have been inter-marrying for years. We break bread together. We laugh together. Employers don't give a rat's ass what color you are. They care about performance because they have to be cognizant of the bottom line. In fact, people of color may get more leniency in some cases due to fear of being sued. However, I do know that the trauma of our ancestors from years or centuries ago can linger on in our minds...

      Enough said there.

      As for Meghan, she was a B actress, not particularly impressive, but her life was still more privileged than many. She had some smarts, some sex appeal and some beauty. She managed to get the attention of a prince. No small feat. She wanted to be like Lady Di...not a civil servant. And so she played the race card. What a cheap shot. She is half white, half black.. The Brits had welcomed her with open arms and she managed to stab them in the back. That is not okay. Nor is okay that Harry broke the hearts of his brother, father and grandmother for a silly woman.

      Life is crazy. Mostly, I came here to defend Americans. We're not as racist as some say. We're a lot more accepting and loving than many realize. I just happen to be one American who tells it like it is. They call it "tough love. Lol.

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      I'm disappointed because I thought that Meghan was well able to handle the status and responsibility of being a royal. However, Nell, I think that your presentation is well-balanced. I still wish that the couple will stay married, and eventually act sensibly.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 

      4 weeks ago from Fontana

      Tim, I think back to Diana and how miserable she was. it was awful of Charles to marry her knowing he loved Camilla Bowles (sic). People should marry whom they love. We should be cheering true love on. You are right! She was not a pauper. She was successful and rich in her own right. To make her a gold digger without knowing anything about her is unfair. I hope people just leave them alone.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks Thelma, always good to see you.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      She offered her father money? I have never seen that in the news? Interesting stuff, thanks as always Tim.

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      Thelma Alberts 

      4 weeks ago from Germany and Philippines

      I was already confused hearing on tv news that Meghan and Harry are no longer taking parts of the Royal tasks. After the grandeous and expensive wedding paid by the taxpayers? Great article Nell. Thanks for the heads up.

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      Tim Truzy 

      4 weeks ago from U.S.A.

      Yeah, I think screaming "race" all the time is a bit boring. It's important to remember: Meghan was already successful, worth $35 million, so she wasn't after the royals' money for sure. Maybe they should pay the British tax payers for the marriage, but Kate and that lot should too. I read she wasn't getting along with Kate, and I wouldn't put that pass part of the problem. Harry and Meghan probably just want a break. By the way, Meghan offered her father money, exceeding what he paid for her education, but he declined.

      The institution of the royals for G.B. has changed in the past, as to how things are done, and I wouldn't be surprised to see it happen again. That's why the British royal family is so admired-they are flexible, say, unlike the House of Saud.

      Interesting article. I wish the young couple the best, and long live the Gracious Monarch of Our closest and dearest ally and friends. Thanks, Nell.

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      RoadMonkey 

      4 weeks ago

      Yes, Nell Rose, especially from people who are used to being in the spotlight.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks Roadmonkey. Interesting article. I think my argument is a simple one though. Why walk into the spotlight, stay there two years, then moan that they spotlight is on you? thanks again.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Good to know Paula! :)

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      I totally agree with you Diane. I hate racism. In fact I think anybody who can hate purely because the melamine in their skin is dark, is pretty stupid to be honest. I see people as they are, not what color they are. My DNA shows my family are so multi cultural it is amazing. I am Irish, Scots, Norwegian, Middle eastern, and Jewish, LOL! what a great mix! so yes, with you on that one. Glad you are okay now, and your pain is behind you.

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      RoadMonkey 

      4 weeks ago

      Interesting newspaper article about why the newspapers MAY be giving some of the Royals a hard time. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/jan...

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      Paula 

      4 weeks ago from UpstateWestern,New York

      Nell....I'm fine, honey....Just in the process of selling my home and down-sizing my life! I'll fill you in when I've reached my goal! Cheers.

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      RoadMonkey 

      4 weeks ago

      Hi Diane Nelson Trotter. It took me a VERY long time to realise and understand what I say now. I was very young before and it's hard to walk in someone else's shoes, you never see exactly what they do.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 

      4 weeks ago from Fontana

      Nell, that saga of pain was in the 80s. I'm now retired. I have had a knee and hip replacement. I should have had 2nd knee replacement last March and hope to have it done soon.

      I don't like for people to cry racism when it if not legitimate. It minimizes the significance of real racists acts. While i don't believe most people are racist (Yes, I think Black people can be racist too!), I appreciate the people who recognize it and denounce it at the appropriate time.

      The only answer is the golden rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Paula, hope everything is alright with you? It's always great to see you.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      lol! me too Audrey! I finished my first book really quickly, but this follow up is a real pain.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Diane, I am so sorry for all the trouble you have had, and I hope you are healing now. I can't say what happens over there in America, but over here we do pride ourselves on not being racist. Of course there are always a few out there that are nasty, but the majority of us see the person first, and not the color. As for Meghan, the reason why we dislike her mainly is because of the way she treated her father, and he knows her better than anyone. But I do hope they can work out a good life and prove us all wrong. As I said before, it is so nice seeing you again.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 

      4 weeks ago from Fontana

      RoadMonkey, You GET me! You understand what I was trying to say! Thank you!

      Btw, I learned about a month ago that you should NOT double space after a period. The only reason it was done in the past was because of some issue with typewriters. I just thought someone would be interested in this trivia!

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      Paula 

      4 weeks ago from UpstateWestern,New York

      I always love your articles, Nell and this one is very well done, girlfriend.

      However, I must confess, I know so little about the Royal Family in general and at this point, even less about the latest Hullabaloo in the headlines.

      For instance, I had no idea that Harry (that sweet man) is dealing with some mental issues. I'm so sorry to hear this. I had no idea that Meghan was having difficulty, getting along with Kate & William....that's just sad. I also am clueless as to the talk of Meghan having used the "race card" & why or when she has done this.

      So, there you go, Nell, Thank you for filling me in on these particular news items. All in all, this makes me quite sad for everyone involved.

      Clearly, I should spend a bit of time looking into all of this, so I'm not too clueless to discuss the subject when and if it should arise in conversation.

      Being a citizen, being close to the situation, I can see why you have the concern and opinion you have. I have full trust in your information and I do hope you will keep us updated on what's going on, from your close proximity!

      I see several comments on the fact that this young couple may not make it as Mr & Mrs ..? I sincerely hope that they do, despite the decision they have recently made.

      I've been so preoccupied with important matters in my personal life and MISS ALL of my Hub Buddies! Hope to talk with you again, Nell................Peace, Paula

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      Audrey Hunt 

      4 weeks ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      You've made this topic interesting to me. Until I read your article, I really didn't get caught up in all this. I have to say, though, I'm not sure I trust this woman. But, what do I know? I just go along, day by day, trying to finish my book. :)

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 

      4 weeks ago from Fontana

      Hi Nell! It has been a long time.

      I can't speak from the perspective of a man, disabled person or a white woman. I am a witness for living in Black skin. The average white person, who has not walked through life along side a non-white friend, is not able to understand the challenges.

      .

      Added to this particular marital challenge is an African American having to adjust to life as royalty in England and being placed under a microscope and analyzed constantly. Racism is well known in Hollywood because the majority of the lead roles go to white people.

      White men get paid more for lead roles than anybody! Racism is alive and well BUT not all people are racists. It is unfair to say that someone is "playing the race card" because I am not a racist.

      When I worked in a largely-white environment, there came a time when I had medical problems. I had worked for 10 years and had accumulated 6 months of sick leave. Then I had my bladder removed and one was reconstructed with part of my large intestine. It took two major surgeries to accomplish this. I was hospitalized at least two other times. My employer thought I was faking. After all, I couldn't be sick because they were feeling just fine.

      Two years later I doubled over in pain and was taken to the emergency room. I had a bowel obstruction. My friend called my job to tell them I was in the hospital and needed surgery for the obstruction. The supervisor insisted on talking to me. I was heavily sedated but managed to say enough for then to believe me. Some people have more illnesses than others. Some people hate other people. Some are loving. Stereotypes, intended or not, tend to dismiss the legitimacy of real pain.

      When we talk about what "white people" do or what "Black people" do, we are stereotyping. I judge people by what I know about them. I don't know anything about these two. Harry seems to be very charming and has represented his family well. I never heard of Meghan until they were dating. I never heard anything negative about her until it came from media coverage of their marriage.

      If they love each other, I pray they make it.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Hi again Diane, good to see you. I do agree with you, but I also think as Meghans family they know her better than anyone else. And if they say she is maniuplating the situation then I do tend to believe them. All her father did was take a few photos which he shouldn't have had done. But does that deserve ignoring him? He had a heart-attack. And she has never seen him since. I find her cold and hurtful. We all loved her to start with.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks Eric, good to see you.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks Roadmonkey, I appreciate your points, thank you

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks Ruby!

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 

      4 weeks ago from Fontana

      I mean her father. He was giving them problems leading up to the wedding. He was trying to get pay for access and information. He was disinvited to the wedding because of his maneuvers.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Interesting I would not have read a line except that you wrote it. Glad I did now I know all I need to know about that tabloid stuff.

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      RoadMonkey 

      4 weeks ago

      I read an article here on HubPages only a few days ago about culture shock by S C Skull, I think. It was eye opening because the ideas it contained covered a great many areas that I had experienced but never realised it was culture shock. The article itself covered moving to a different country but if you think about it, culture shock covers many more areas, such as a student moving to university in a different area. You lose your friend circle, you are in with people speaking a different language with different values, etc. I now realise that was what I suffered from as a student, moving just 500 miles away, even though I really wanted to go. I knew nothing about culture shock, nor did anyone else, but I could relate to that hub article. Now consider someone moving into the Royal Family. Diana, Princess of Wales suffered culture shock even though she moved in high circles and knew the Royal Family from childhood. The Duchess of Cambridge took quiet time out in Anglesey when Prince William was working. Both of them were British but they had to overcome culture shock - the Duchess of Cambridge's mother had to listen to comments like "doors to manual" because she had been an air hostess. I moved to Africa for 3 weeks for a job that fell through. My husband suffered horrendous culture shock. Think about moving to a foreign country, even though they speak the same language, with a father in law who calls you a "degree wife" because he thinks the marriage will last only 3 years and into a family with customs that most people would find hard to live with for a few weeks, never mind for life. Britain has become much more racist in the last few years. I have moved to sit beside people of colour on the train because they were being targeted. White people do not see it. It's just like men do not understand mansplaining, yet women experience it frequently. Groups of women when asked what they do to avoid sexual violence can come up with a whole list of things while a group of men come up with a light-hearted "stay out of prison". I am not a film or TV watcher. I never heard of Meghan Markle before she came here and have no idea what "Suits" is about, though the word kept being bandied around. I am not a Royal family addict either. They do a job and I prefer them to voting for a President.

      I am just saying that it is possible that Meghan Markle is suffering from culture shock and could maybe do with peace and quiet, which she has never got. If you look at all the nasty things people are saying, including her family, well look at all the dirt being dug up at present about political candidates vying to become party leader. The newspapers and everyone else are so desperate to get their choice of candidate, that lies as well as dug up dirt are bandied about.

      You may be right. She may not be a nice person. I DO NOT KNOW and I certainly am not going to believe what the newspapers and news bulletins say because the media is owned by a few foreign billionaires who publish what suits their interests, not mine.

      I prefer to leave people alone to work out their own way of life. Yes, it's my taxes, as well as yours but I see a LOT of taxes being spent, in the BILLIONS, on things I do not agree with but this is a democracy and those are the priorities of the current government. Much of this may be being used to hide other pieces of news that are more important, if less juicy.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      4 weeks ago from Southern Illinois

      Nell, I'm not sure what to believe. They seem like an ideal couple and the baby is so precious. What is it between she and her father. What kind of mental problem does Harry have? There are many unanswered questions concerning the couple. Keep us updated.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks guys, yes MG, he is a sucker! lol!

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Sorry, Diane, who do you mean? Harry?

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      Christine Hulme 

      4 weeks ago from SE Kent, England

      Interesting but in the meantime.....well written article!

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      MG Singh 

      4 weeks ago from Singapore

      This is a wonderful post.Yes, the marriage may not last and Harry is a sucker. Thank you fir the insight provided.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 

      4 weeks ago from Fontana

      He is demonstrating what a horrible father he is.

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      Peggy Woods 

      4 weeks ago from Houston, Texas

      All I know is that this Royal breakup is certainly making the news rounds. The world is watching what will become of this couple. Like others have already written, I think that the road ahead will be a bumpy one. I wish them well.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks ehveryone. Yes she is a spoilt, manipulative woman. And I agree, Harry is vulnerable, with his mental health issues. I totally believe her family. They are the only ones in the world who know what Meghan is like. So what they have said here is not only fascinating but obviously the truth. And Bill? I am with you on that one, LOL!

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      It's amazing, to me, how fascinated people in the States are about all this. I'm worried about paying the house payment, while millions are worried about royal titles and entitlements. lol I must have my priorities all messed up.

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      Ann Carr 

      4 weeks ago from SW England

      An interesting article, Nell. None of us knows the real truth behind all of it, of course, but the spending of all the money (clothes, house etc) and the fact that she can't seem to get on with Kate and William (who seem to get on with everyone else with no problem) is quite telling, I think.

      I don't think the marriage has started well and she comes across (only at face value as I obviously don't know) as a wilful, materialistic character who can put on a smile on a whim. I feel sorry for Harry as I think he is vulnerable, still with mental health issues, and trying to please everyone.

      Time alone will tell. I wish them both well but I think the road is going to be bumpy.

      Great article, well-crafted, Nell.

      Ann

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      4 weeks ago from Sunny Florida

      This has repeatedly been on the news in the US. I haven't heard them use race in the news but it apprears the Meghan has more reasons to leave England than the Prince does.

      Your perspective was very interesting Nell and since you live in England you know more than I so, so thank you for your perspective.

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 

      4 weeks ago from United Kingdom

      In my opinion, many Americans believe that marrying into the Royal Family means a life of leisure and luxury where their wish is everybody's command. They don't realise the amount of pressure to be perfect and never putting a foot wrong or the number of public appearances that is expected of them. Once you become a 'Royal' your life is no longer your own.

      I've never cared for Meghan. There always seemed something off about her. If you notice her body language at public engagements she seems ill at ease compared to Harry who is quite comfortable with the attention.

      I believe this departure marks the beginning of the end of their marriage. Harry is royalty and I can't see the rest of the family waving him off and wishing him a good life. Meghan, on the other hand, is free to leave if she so chooses. Where does this leave their son, I wonder. If they do divorce, things will get messy.

      Have a good day, Nell.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 weeks ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Nell, Meghan knew what she got herself into from day one and now to opt out is selfish. I feel bad for Harry to have this woman in his life to make a wedge in the family.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 weeks ago from USA

      I don’t think this marriage will last either. I give it 2-3 years in North America then they will separate. They seemed to rush into this thing.

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      Yves 

      4 weeks ago

      Dear Nell.... While some Americans are enamored with Markle, let's just say I don't trust her as far as I can throw her, nor have I ever felt good about the union. I think Meghan is "full of it." The racism card she has thrown out there is an insult to every citizen in Britain. She is beyond ridiculous.

      Harry should have listened to his brother and grandfather. I agree that, in time, the marriage will crumble.

      But not before Markle gets her Netflix deals, her heightened celebrity, and her cash. And sorry to say, she had baby Archie in record time as an insurance policy.

      Well, at least she lost her title. Thank goodness for that.

      Harry should have known better. My sympathy goes out to the baby.

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      John Hansen 

      4 weeks ago from Queensland Australia

      Hmmm this seems to be the biggest news story around and could be for some time. You share some very interesting points, Nell. Nice job.

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