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Why Nasty Notes on the Cars of Accessible Parking Violators Is a Bad Idea

Carola is a disability advocate with many years of experience working in the disability community. She is also a freelance writer.

Notes left on the cars of accessible parking violators are a bad idea.

Notes left on the cars of accessible parking violators are a bad idea.

As a disability writer and advocate, I often come across articles during my research discussing how people react to finding nasty notes that accuse them of parking illegally in accessible parking spaces. I have concluded that these notes do more harm than good and are ineffective in curbing people from illegal parking in spots designated for people with disabilities.

Why We Need Accessible Parking Spots

The reason for accessible parking is to enable people with physical disabilities to access public places more efficiently and safely. People in wheelchairs can access ramps, and people who have trouble walking do not have to travel so far to the front door.

Being able to park in front also helps people with mobility issues to be safe (can you imagine navigating a parking lot in a wheelchair?). Some people with cognitive issues may also need space so they can find their cars easily after their visits.

How People Become Accessible Parking Vigilantes

The Illegal use of accessible parking spaces is a global problem. Some people are just “popping into the store for a minute,” and others ignore signs for special parking for their own selfish reasons. Some assume that the drivers they suspect are illegally parked are uncaring, self-serving, and inconsiderate.

These people made it their mission to identify those who broke the rules, including those with legitimate accessible parking permits. Some post pictures of violators’ cars on “walls of shame” on social media. Others will become so angry that they vandalize the cars of assumed violators by smashing their mirrors, ruining their windshield wipers, or damaging their cars in other criminal and illegal ways.

Examples of Common Notes

The vigilantes may confront people directly that they feel are breaking the rules, but many leave anonymous notes. A review of articles about the nasty messages that vigilantes leave shows common threads I have summarized below.

  • "I saw you were walking, and you seem to walk fine. Show some respect, and don't park here."
  • "Did you forget your wheelchair?"
  • “Are you in a hurry or just lazy?
  • "Because of your inconsiderate parking, you took enough room for a whole zoo.”
  • "I don’t like domineering, egotistical, or simple-minded drivers, and you are obviously one of these. F--- you."
  • *I wish you an early transmission failure on the expressway.”
  • “Change and become a decent person, will you?”
  • “Saw that there is nothing wrong with you. Know that God is watching you.”
  • “You inconsiderate b----, using a spot when neither you nor your child is disabled. You are setting a bad example for your child.”
  • “Shame on you for using a space meant for people in wheelchairs.”

Why People Should Not Leave Nasty Notes

There are many reasons you shouldn't leave notes on someone's vehicle who you believe is improperly parked in an accessible spot.

It's a Waste of Time

Vigilantes assume that their rude notes will make parking violators feel shame and guilt when confronted and stop their illegal behavior. This is ineffective with selfish people who feel entitled to do whatever they want. The worst offenders are unlikely to be affected by nasty notes.

The Person Probably Has a Physical Disability

When people have permits, they get them because they have physical or mental disabilities or have a family member with mobility issues. However, many individuals have limited ideas of what physical disability looks like.

Physical disability has many forms that do not involve wheelchairs. The person may be an amputee with a prosthetic limb hidden under clothing. The person may have cancer or had surgery that impacts their ability to walk. Some permits are issued to people with memory problems due to conditions such as brain cancer and may have difficulty remembering where they parked their cars.

It Might Be for the Passenger

Some non-disabled people have permits because they take family members shopping or to appointments. The non-disabled may return to their cars to get something or put heavy packages in the back while their disabled loved one is shopping. Vigilantes may spot them and mistake them for violators.

The people using these spaces may have conditions such as multiple sclerosis (MS), which may vary their ability to walk. One day, the person may be in a wheelchair. On another day, they may be on crutches. Yet another day, they may seem to be able to walk fine. These people feel proud of themselves because they can walk after a difficult surgery or on a rare good day only to find a nasty note on their windshield.

The Notes Are One-Sided

Notes are usually anonymous and one-sided. The person receiving the note has no chance to explain their circumstances if they wanted to do so. The recipient feels angry, frustrated, humiliated, and powerless.

Demeaning Comments Are Hurtful

No one has the right to belittle another person by calling them stupid, selfish, inconsiderate, or lazy. Name-calling and vulgar language are degrading and uncalled for. This behavior is abusive.

Some Alternatives to Nasty Notes

If you still want to do something about accessible parking infractions, there are many alternatives to mean notes that are kinder and more effective.

In my city, each accessible parking spot has a sign that includes a hotline where people can call and report violators. The bottom of the sign has a warning that violators could face steep fines.

Violators think twice about using an accessible parking spot if they know they might have to face a hefty law enforcer and a huge fine. My city also has an enforcement team that patrols popular areas to spot cars without permits and possible permit use violations.

Many communities have similar systems in place to deal with parking violations. Some cities and states have commissions or committees to deal with these disability issues. Some organizations and disability advocates have set up pages on social media dedicated to discussing these issues and how to take action if needed.

Educate the Public

Media coverage of how nasty notes affect people who are genuinely physically disabled help to educate the general public about the users of accessible parking. However, it is unfortunate that people with real mobility issues must be verbally abused, humiliated, embarrassed, and publicly shamed before light is shed on this issue.

Disability advocates have devised creative ways to raise public awareness about accessible parking. One European parking lot set up a hologram that is triggered when someone parked in a handicapped space. A mini-movie showed a disabled man in a wheelchair who explained and demonstrated why he needed the space.

A photo on European social media showed wheelchairs strategically lined up in several accessible parking spaces. Each unit had a sign conveying a message loosely translated as: “Back in just a minute.” Today’s technology provides many opportunities to use humor and other means to educate people about the proper use of accessible parking spaces.

Some disabled permit holders keep copies of documents or business cards that outline their conditions to show people who confront them. Some even put them on their dashboards to avoid getting nasty notes.

Nasty notes don't work, and they're harmful to the people who receive them.

Nasty notes don't work, and they're harmful to the people who receive them.

Advocate in Better Ways

After reviewing many articles about parking violations from far-flung places like the United Kingdom, New Zealand, and North America, I have concluded that nasty notes are harmful and do not work. The

These messages will probably upset and anger innocent people with mobility or mental issues who already face many challenges. These notes also frustrate and enrage their caregivers and loved ones.

The disability community and its advocates need to continue to educate people about how accessible parking places are used by the people who need them. People who write nasty notes should explore more positive ways to ensure that disabled people can access the parking spaces they need.


Don’t judge appearances. People with invisible disabilities don’t look Disabled, Invisible Disabilities Association
U.K. Mom of a Child With a Disability Finds 'Hurtful' Note on Car, The Mighty
How Dare You Judge my Handicap Sticker, National Pain Report

© 2018 Carola Finch