The Female Abuser Is Protected by Society
There is currently a major bias within society and within the justice systems that leans towards the belief that most abusers are male and that most victims of abuse are female. However, recent research actually indicates that the opposite may be the case and it seems that women are increasingly taking on the role of being the abuser.
The first official source that I've noticed who have now actually started acknowledging this fact is the NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children) in their latest television advert which shows an image of a bruised child along with the caption How can Jack take another beating from his mum? In addition, more and more cases are being brought to the forefront of the mainstream media and rightly so.
I personally remember a few years ago explaining to my own mother some of the incidents that I had witnessed and been subject to in my own life. She didn't believe a word of it, a mother would never be capable of such abuse towards their own children in my mother's opinion. I had to sit down and explain to her in great detail that with many of these cases the motherly bond is just not there, it's not present.
Many charities and organizations claim to help male victims of domestic violence. However, upon actually attempting to seek this help there appears to be very little help available. These types of organizations are usually mainly focused at women whilst men in abusive relationships are seen as weak and are commonly turned away.
There is a twisted logic and bias to society which presumes that men should be able to deal with abuse. The fact is that nobody deserves to be abused or turned away when seeking help and long-term abuse of any kind can cause severe psychological trauma leading to mental illness, anxiety, poor health and even strokes and heart attacks. Being made to face up to the abuse is not help.
Despite the also very common belief that most narcissists are men, these women seem to be spread far and wide and are crafty, deceitful and manipulative and seriously lack empathy for their own offspring. The common act of paternity fraud shows this accurately indicating that up to 30% of fathers who get a paternity test for their child turn out to not actually be the biological father of the child.
Given the twisted logic and reverse psychology mechanism of narcissistic abuse doesn't it seem inevitable that the most narcissistic gender in society would manipulate the situation to make the opposite gender look like the bad guys? (this is speculation on my part, not fact).
A study of 11,000 men and women was conducted by the Harvard Medical School and US Center for Disease Control. The study indicated that 24% of heterosexual relationships had involved some kind of abuse.
Half of these relationships were shown to have involved reciprocal violence (abuse from both sides) whilst the other half showed that the non-reciprocal violence (attacking first) was initiated by the female members of the relationships. The fact is that male victims of domestic abuse wrongly suffer from gender bias despite the appropriate research indicating the complete opposite.
Another study which was part of the National Family Violence Legislative Resource Center indicates that there is more abuse/violence in lesbian relationships than there is in heterosexual relationships also portraying that most abusers are female.
The studies clearly show that women are more abusive than men and that 70% of non-reciprocal abuse is actually initiated by women. Further research conducted by the University of Florida shows that women are 70% more likely to physically/sexually abuse their own children than men.
It is well known that whereas a man has the physique and necessary strength to protect and provide for his family, a woman is naturally more psychologically and emotionally defensive and is therefore more likely to employ deceit and manipulation in order to protect themselves (narcissism) whereas a man may resort to physical violence. This explains why most physical abusers tend to be male and most emotional/mental abusers tend to be female.
There is one main and very significant difference between these two types of abuse. Physical damage results in physical scars whereas emotional and mental scars remain invisible except to the victim who often ends up remaining silent because they know from the start that they probably won't be believed.
Mental/emotional abusers get away with their acts much more commonly than physical abusers do.
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