Social Media for Narcissists
Buzzy Prepares Breakfast
Good Morning, Breakfastpoppers. Today is Sunday, October 8, 2017. Our flying friend, Buzzy, has just returned from an ambitious flight that oversaw all the social media sites. He has come to a conclusion about social media that he would love to share. Buzzy has prepared breakfast for all the poppers this morning. We will be feasting on Ham and Egg Casseroles accompanied by spicy Bloody Marys. We hope to see you soon. Buzzy and I will greet you at the door.
Social Media isn't Aways Social
Thanks so much for joining me this morning. It goes without saying that most of us and the rest of the world are actively engaged on social media. We accumulate thousands of "friends", and we have become expert at quick one word remarks that satisfy the limited bounds of such "friendships." Personally, I am sick of the whole thing. I took a good, hard long look at the babble on sites like Facebook and I felt embarrassed for all of us. We befriend people we haven't seen in thirty years, and we somehow feel connected, even loved. Nothing much is required of us in terms of real friendship. All we have to do is tell them how pretty and witty they are. We can salivate, or pretend to, when they tell us they are on a cruise or at dinner at a posh restaurant. We croon little sing -song things like, "lucky lady", "gorgeous family" or "breathtaking grandkids." Group photos are a must. We take pictures of our dinner companions and our food. Those who read our feed have to drool over the company and the food. It is all very exhausting, but it is required. It is all part of the dance we are doing to prove to ourselves and our audience that we are popular, relevant, busy, involved and amazing. Like I said, it is all so exhausting and for many it is a full time job.
You are Invited into My Life
Come Play With Me
Very often we engage our faux friends in games. We can play constantly, but we don't have to actually invite anyone into our homes. We don't have to prepare snacks and drinks or dinner. We can play anytime the mood strikes us, and feel so good about our very unsocial social life. These games make us feel alive and involved. Our cell phones are our lifelines. Without them we are practically friendless, and that is simply unacceptable. When we need help deciding what new car to buy, we can pose the question to our cyber community. 'Does anyone know anything about the new Bentley?" The question is unnecessary in terms of real information, but it lets everyone know how well we are doing. We really aren't bragging, because we pose a question instead of stating a fact, and all is right with the world. Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat brought excitement to our lives. We connected with people, however superficial the connection, and we felt loved. The more we tweeted, the more pictures we posed of ourselves, the more involved we became with "us" and our phones replaced actual live people in our lives. Selfies are now the rage. We take overly dramatic pictures of ourselves and post them on social medial. Our "friends" are now required to tell us how pretty or how handsome we are. That's the law in cyber-land, be nice and remember you don't have to mean it. Lately things have changed from the ridiculous to the not so sublime.
Getting Pretty Ugly
Social media has now entered a new phase. Along with the vacuous chitchat comes vindictive, mean spirited comments about anyone who shares a different point of view. Whether it is about social issues like transgender bathrooms or political issues like President Trump, the air has a definite chill and it is getting icier by the minute. Those of differing political views are now de-friending their one-time good friends who were never really friends at all. There is also a lot of de-friending among actual friends which is a sick aspect of our new way of viewing freedom of expression, namely we are no longer free to express how we feel. Say the wrong thing and your one thousand fake friends will willingly call you a fascist pig. Friendship isn't really so friendly anymore, and this whole social media trend is now becoming a health issue, both mental and otherwise.
All this posting, posing, tweeting and chatting has turned many of us into electronic slaves. We consult our phones like addicts waiting for our next fix. We don't really care about most of our "friends" but we have a compulsive need to see what they are up to. Of course, they are never up to anything important, but we still have to know. Our life online seems more important than the actual lives we are living. I see whole families gathered around the dinner table at a restaurant glued to their fake on-line family, all the while ignoring their real families. It is time to put down the phones. It is time to stop collecting "friends" we don't know. It is time to stop bashing people who hold differing outlooks on life, love and politics. It is time to start taking photos of sunsets instead of posing like Hollywood actors. It is time to become real again. It's time to invite actual friends over for dinner without posting the event on social media. Time is of the essence, so we really should stop squandering it. In the meantime, I have to go. I want to post this on Facebook!
Fly me to the moon
Where Twitter doesn't live
Our world has grown so stupid
Something simply has to give....