Three Reasons Not to Block Someone’s Gate

Updated on March 4, 2018
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MsDora, former teacher and Certified Christian Counselor shares tips for smooth relationships with friends and encounters with strangers.

Most mornings when I draw my blackout curtains, my first view of the outdoors consists of: purple, pink and yellow flowers along my side fence, the wild bushes in various shades of green on an empty lot across the street, the sky blue above and the ocean blue in the distance.

One morning, that beautiful scenery was interrupted by one of the major features I dislike about happenings in my neighborhood. No, the colors were still there, but my sense of sight was momentarily diminished by the thoughtlessness of two drivers. What did these drivers do? They blocked my gate.

The Colors Were Still There

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No Legal Satisfaction

Suddenly, the action of blocking gates became a matter for attention. My research online and in consultation with a local authority informed me that:

  • Putting cones or any other obstacles in the street (without permission from the local authority) to prevent parking in front of one's gate can result in prosecution for causing obstruction.
  • Everyone has the same right to park anywhere on the street as long as there is no obstruction to the street; one can report to the local authority about obstruction to private property, but such issues do not make the priority list.
  • No one has permission to ram or tow the transgressor’s car.

These facts seem to say that the issue of not blocking (or blocking) someone’s gate or driveway is left to the discretion of the would-be offender whether he or she possesses (or lacks) consideration, cooperation, and good conscience. These three virtues provide good reason for not blocking someone's gate.

(1) Consideration

"Intensely selfish people ... do not waste their energies in considering the good of others." ― Ouida

Consideration is the process of thinking carefully about something to be done. The considerate person looking for parking on a street will question, "Will parking here inconvenience anyone? How much will it hurt me to find a space where I do not block the gate and walk a few extra steps to my destination?" Such consideration would have spared me two major inconveniences in the past.

(a) No Parking for the Ambulance

My mother’s illness was worsening and I called the hospital emergency room for consultation. The doctor’s recommendation was for her to come in, and he arranged for transportation by ambulance. When I realized that there was no parking space in front of the house, I turned into a madwoman running out in the street and screaming for somebody to move and allow the ambulance to get close to the gate. Perhaps, I overreacted, but who has time to reason when the only options seem to be life or death?

(b) Late for Church

Being late for church may not be a big deal, but it saps mental and spiritual energy when an individual is dressed up in Sabbath best and forced to sit on the porch waiting helplessly for an irresponsible driver. It would not have helped for me to repeat my mad performance because the driver was too far away to hear me. After almost thirty minutes, he walked up to his car with a broad smile and a gentle sorry.

So, consider the Golden Rule: "Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you." (Matthew 7:12)

(2) Cooperation

"Nothing truly valuable can be achieved except by the unselfish cooperation of many individuals."― Albert Einstein

Cooperation, like charity, begins at home—in the resident neighborhood. Good neighbors cooperate to achieve a welcoming neighborhood in which they practice mutual respect and trust. Although none can lay claim to the portion of the street outside the gate, they consider that it is neighborly kindness to leave that space for those who live inside the gate. Folks who adopt this practice within their neighborhoods are more likely to practice it when they visit their relatives and associates across town.

Lack of cooperation can result in vexations, quarrels, and revenge tactics. Who needs emotional setbacks like isolation and hostility in the community when it has been proven that good neighbors are good for one’s health?"

"When you're thinking of strategies to manage stress,” counsels Elizabeth Scott, MS, “consider investing in your relationships with your neighbors.” Cooperate.

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(3) Conscience

It is neither right nor safe to go against my conscience.”
― Martin Luther

A good conscience dictates that an individual does what is right even when no one is looking. No witness is necessary for the offender to hear the voice inside his head drumming “This is wrong” or “You know better.” The kind, unselfish person may not be able to hear much else for the entire time his car is blocking someone’s gate. He may return and move his vehicle even before he originally planned to; or when he moves it, he may plan not to do it again.

Residents who shared their blocked-gate experience online have referred to the transgressors as knuckle brain, selfish retard, complete jackass and worse. But more important than what other people call them is what their consciences say they are.

Circumspect? Compassionate? Conscientious? These virtuous names are reserved for people who do not block other people's gates.

How likely is it for gates in your neighborhood to get blocked?

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      Dora Weithers 2 days ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Dianna. You know they say that common sense is not that common. So we probably have to keep on teaching.

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      Dianna Mendez 3 days ago

      Occasionally we have people park on our grass or block the mail box. Don't know what I would do if someone blocked my drive way. Seems like people would have sense enough to know not to!

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      Dora Weithers 11 days ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Bill. Perhaps they see it, but they are too selfish or too busy to consider doing the right thing. Too bad, we they have the right to choose the wrong.

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      William Kovacic 11 days ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Hi, Dora. To me, it looks like common sense. But then again, that's just my opinion. I'm sure others don't see it that way. Good thoughts to ponder! Thanks.

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      Dora Weithers 13 days ago from The Caribbean

      Thank you, Chris. I appreciate your encouragement.

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      Chris Mills 2 weeks ago from Missoula, Montana at least until March 2018

      Dora, you are such a reasonable person with a beautiful spirit. These are very powerful points you have made. Thanks for the reminders.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Frank. Good for you. The people in your neighborhood are obviously more considerate, or you have much more space. You're lucky!

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      Frank Atanacio 2 weeks ago from Shelton

      MsDora it has never happened to me but I get the frustration... and I'm glad you hubbed about it and gave us three reasons not to block...thank you for sharing

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Chitrangada, even without laws people should be more thoughtful and sensible. Thanks for your input.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, thanks for sharing. People are inconsiderate, yes. Seems they come to try our patience.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 weeks ago from New Delhi, India

      You raise an important issue in this article.

      It’s not at all right to block someone’s entrance gate. I don’t know, if there are any laws, or not to prevent this, but people should be thoughtful and considerate.

      Thanks for drawing attention, through your article.

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      DDE 2 weeks ago

      Interesting title! I do have the problem of other people parking in front of our the entrance, most annoying. I often say it is inconsiderate of them to do so.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks for sharing Peg. I can imagine that many times you started your day with an emotional setback due to someone's disrespect and irresponsibility. How much better life would be if everyone considered the interest of the other person!

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Linda. I see the danger but perhaps venting is all that I can do for now. Individuals have to take responsibility for doing the right thing.

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      Peg Cole 2 weeks ago from Dallas, Texas

      It seems incredibly thoughtless for people to block the entrance to one's property. Like you said, the ambulance access was restricted and your ability to leave was also blocked.

      When I owned a small shop in an historic downtown square, parking was severely limited. I often found the neighboring business merchants parked in front of my door. Usually when I arrived, I had a load of furniture to unload or load for delivery to customers. It was a constant source of aggravation.

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      Linda Crampton 2 weeks ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Parking in front of someone's gate is certainly rude. What concerns me even more is that it's potentially dangerous, as it was when your mother needed to go to the hospital. I hope you find a solution for the problem.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks Demas, for reading and commenting with good advice. Doable!

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      Demas W Jasper 2 weeks ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      I could identify with "Park your own car there." It happens here regularly. If it gets to be someone's habit, I put a note under the windshield wiper asking that more respect be shown for my Exit/Entrance.

      Caught this one: "...does what is right even no one is looking. "

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Jackie. Selfishness seems to blind those who possess. They see no one but themselves. I appreciate your input.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Don. Blocking a driveway is considered an obstruction (that is, if you're on the individual's property) but not parking on the street, which is the case for me.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Tim, thanks for your valuable input, including your apologies on behalf of others. "Thoughtless" is a good word to describe these people.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Denise, you raise a good point. It can happen without wilful evil intent; still it could cause a problem. Glad that the resident only raved.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Glen. Good idea, but I'll have to get permission and don't think the authorities will let me have it permanently. I guess that I can ask.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Nikki. It seems that the sign wins the popular vote. I'll look into it.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Mary. I understand your suggestion but I just hate for other people to dictate what I do. Will consider it, though.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Flourish. I may try that sign after all and hope that it helps.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Bill. It seems to me that one alternative to patience will be worry. So I try to stay calm.

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      Dora Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Louise. I'v thought about that sign, but I have doubts that it will change anything. Still, perhaps I ought to try it.

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      Jackie Lynnley 2 weeks ago from The Beautiful South

      Oh it is so rude of people to do this, like the world was made for them and no one else matters. That is where it is very hard to be that good Christian, isn't it? And it does not even seem wrong! I sometimes hope for the bugger man to get them! Maybe not forever but just enough to teach them a lesson!

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      Don A. Hoglund 2 weeks ago from Wisconsin Rapids

      I thought it was illegal to block access to driveways and such. At a church I used to go to, we got constant remindeers that we should not block access to driveways across from the church.

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      Tim Truzy 2 weeks ago from U.S.A.

      It's incredibly rude and thoughtless to be inconsiderate of another human being that way. I like the idea of putting up a "no parking" sign presented by your other readers.

      Let me offer my apologies for what you had to endure, Ms. Dora. I will pray for those thoughtless souls that didn't care enough about what you were going through to be kind.

      I try to practice the inverted Golden Rule: Do not do to others what you would not want done to you.

      It makes you consider more the consequences of your actions. Would parking here be a problem for my neighbor?

      Thank you for this reminder to be kind and care for your neighbors.



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      Denise W Anderson 2 weeks ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I had an experience where I was the one who inadvertently blocked another's path to the street, and although I had planned to be in the house only for a moment, it was long enough to hear the raving person who came out letting me know I needed to move my vehicle. Since then, I have been much more careful and made sure that where I parked could not be construed to be in front of someone else's path to the street. When we block someone else's path by choice, we need to be prepared for the consequences of doing so!

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      Ioannis Arvanitis 2 weeks ago from Greece, Almyros

      If you can't respect your neighbor or any other human, if you can't respect the rights and needs of other beings, you will never respect yourself.

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      GlenR 2 weeks ago from UK

      Some people are infuriatingly inconsiderate. In your situation, I would try to source a parking cone.

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      Nikki Khan 2 weeks ago from London

      There shouldn’t be any patience for such people who don’t care for others.I am with FlourishAnyway and Bill and yes, ‘A Sign’ to tell ‘Do not park here.’

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      Mary Norton 2 weeks ago from Ontario, Canada

      I will find that annoying as well. When people see it is a gate for a car, the usual thing to do is not park in front of it. I will be furious if I can't get out. Maybe, the best is to park your own car there. I feel bad for you.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 weeks ago from USA

      I’d put up a sign on the gate that says, “Do not block gate.” I’m with Bill. You have a lot of patience.

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      Bill Holland 2 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Some people are simply thoughtless. Others simply do not care if they inconvenience others...You have much more patience than I have in a situation like that.

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      Louise Powles 2 weeks ago from Norfolk, England

      Well I think it's rude blocking someone's gate for one thing. There's a lot of notices I see where people say not to block access. Some people are very inconsiderate though.