Brittany's roommate is the daughter of a man who was separated from his two identical siblings at birth. She hopes to share their story.
A multiple birth can be mentally and emotionally draining for all involved, including the newborns. What’s worse, sometimes the parents are not prepared to raise a “litter” of children. This dilemma occurred in New York just a few decades ago, but the story is far more complicated than that.
Triplets Adopted by Three Different Families
On July 12th, 1961, a young girl in Long Island gave birth to three boys. However, she was not prepared to raise triplets, and she never actually did. The triplets did not meet or even know of their identical brothers until 20 years later, though they had all been living in the same state; Eddy Galland lived in New Hyde Park, David Kellman lived in Queens, and Robert Shafran lived in Scarsdale.
Reunited at Last
At 19 years old, Robert enrolled in Sullivan County Community College. One day, a man approached him, thinking he was Eddy. Confused, Robert explained that he was not Eddy and he did not know who that was.
However, Eddy’s friend realized something: Though Robert was certainly not Eddy, the two walked, talked, and looked exactly the same. After discovering that they even had the same birthday, the friend brought them together, and the two brothers met in a reunion of wonder. The two boys instantly connected on a brotherly level, and their story was published in all the local newspapers.
In another part of New York, a friend of David’s was reading the story in the paper and thought, “These guys look a lot like David.” Indeed, David was the missing piece to the puzzle and the last one to join the trio.
A Human Experiment Gone Wrong
After their reunion, the boys developed an instant friendship. Each of their immediate families tripled in size with the addition of a new brother with his own set of parents. Later down the line, the brothers opened a steakhouse in Manhattan. What a wonderful story, right?
If only it were so. Against the will of their mother, the triplets were separated and kept out of contact with each other as a part of an experiment run by the National Institute of Mental Health that even their adoptive parents had been unaware of. Researchers had been constantly monitoring the three boys, telling the families that they were conducting a “child development study.”
The boys and their families were appalled that the adoption agency and a national organization would work together to make three brothers believe that they were only children. Against their will and knowledge, the unwilling participants were monitored constantly: their behavior was charted, their personalities were observed, and their relationships were scrutinized. Unfortunately, however, these triplets were not the only set of siblings to be broken up and lied to as part of a study on nature vs. nurture.
Raised Apart Due to Unethical Research
In the United States, adoption agencies try to keep siblings together or nearby, especially in the case of a multiple birth. However, there have been many cases in which adoption agencies worked with researchers to conduct illegal and emotionally harmful experiments on children by separating them from their only blood relations.
I wish I could say I that I cannot believe this happened, but I can. If babies can even get switched in the hospital without their mothers noticing, separating triplets from each other does not seem like much of a stretch—just a cruel one. Nature vs. nurture is a very controversial debate, and there are very few ways to test it other than separating a human or animal baby from its mother and/or siblings and putting it in a controlled environment to see what happens. I understand that it is important that we understand how both nature and nurture affect children, but I do not think that destroying families is the way to do it.
David Kellman's daughter is my roommate, and I heard the whole story from her. The triplets harbored feelings of anger and resentment for years from being robbed of 20 years that could have been spent together. In 1995, Eddy committed suicide in his New Jersey home for undisclosed reasons. Now as a set of twins, Robert and David are determined to educate others on the dangers of these awful childhood experiments, and they were the subject of a 2018 documentary titled Three Identical Strangers.
These men were subject to a heartbreaking experiment that, despite probably producing incredible results for researchers, occurred at a high cost. I hope that those researchers are happy.
- Twins Discover They Were Separated at Birth and Then Part of a Secret Study
This article discusses several sets of twins that were part of the same study as Eddy, Robert, and David.
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joseph greco on November 30, 2019:
a long time friend of mine is a twin & he has a sister & they got seperated ! many times he thinks about his sister & makes him
very sad !
he thinks she lives in Seattle but not for sure !he is 78 years old
& he was told his mom was just 16 when she had the twins ! not
fair for children to be split up !even if they are poor better to be
Eluzabeth creamer on February 02, 2019:
I am an identical twin we have always know when the other is hurt or in pain
MultiplesMom on September 15, 2018:
Focusing on the separation is a point here also...for them for sure. Yes, we want to move on and enjoy life, but with multiples the damage is so severe that it's life-changing for them. My multiples remind me all the time that they cannot listen to peoples' opinions on their life because those people can't understand, and I believe that. I've learned that through example. The doctor who did these experiments, as well as the LA Jewish Center should be made accountable as it did cause damage to these lives. Not necessarily monetary compensation, but prison time. It was reprehensible what they did to these lives. God Bless all those that were separated. May they find their sibling and peace in their lives.
Elaine Krueger on July 22, 2018:
i don't think focusing on the separation is the point at this time. I think there were relationship issues between the brothers that might have occurred without the separation. I have triplet girls
Larry Thorne on August 27, 2017:
I actually had a chance meeting with 3 young men at a restaurant they worked at in New York City. We were in New York for a convention and went to Sammy`s for dinner with some associates.A young man who was a waiter, brought some food to our table and was so pleasant. A little while later, a young man walked by out table, and I asked him for something, he said, I`m not at this table. I said our you sure, and he answered yes! So, he walked by again and I stopped him again, and he said this isn`t my table. I said really! No it must be someone else~ I`m totally confused by now! All of a sudden 3 young men show up at our table and I`m in shock and they are laughing. The joke was on me!! I`ve never forgot this experience. It happened in February 1984. Always have remembered those nice pleasant young men!!