A Parents' Guide to Surviving Air Force Basic Training (BMTS)

Updated on September 4, 2017

Basic Training

My husband Chris and I are veterans of the United States Air Force. We both went through six weeks of basic military training during the mid 1980s at Lackland Air Force Base in San Antonio, Texas. Having gone through the experience myself I thought I would be prepared when my 19 year old son Rhett left for BMT after joining the Oklahoma Air National Guard. Boy was I wrong. Though I knew exactly what he was in for, the 8.5 weeks he was gone were the longest and most stressful of my life. If it weren't for the different support services that are available to military families I think I would have gone crazy.

I am so grateful for the information that I received I decided to write this hub to pay it forward. If you have a loved one leaving for San Antonio there are avenues available to you to help you get through the long weeks without your special Airman.

My son's first full day at Lackland Air Force Base.
My son's first full day at Lackland Air Force Base.
My husband Chris.
My husband Chris.
My son Rhett
My son Rhett

Day One - Zero Week

Your loved ones ship date has arrived. You take him/her to the airport, kiss him/her goodbye, shed buckets of tears, then go home to begin your long wait for their first phone call. Our son had his cell phone with him and called us several times before he boarded the military bus for his trip to Lackland, but it was a day before we heard from him again. His initial Air Force call came late the next evening and the stress he was feeling was apparent as he hurriedly attempted to give his sleepy father his new address. After three unsuccessful attempts to relay the address he finally hung up on his dad and called his girlfriend.It was 2 weeks before we heard from him again. (I cried the entire two weeks-then when I heard his voice I tried to be brave and not cry-but didn't make it. I cried during every subsequent call too.)

When your airman gets to their dorm at Lackland he/she has to surrender his/her cell phone. He/She may get it on Sunday afternoons to call home if his/her MTI, military training instructor, gives them the privilege. If your airman doesn't have a cell phone their MTI will allow him to call you using a pay phone and phone card. The calls during the first few weeks are usually short, 20 minutes or less, but normally the call time gets extended as the weeks progress.

Don't be surprised if you don't receive a phone call every week. The MTI's know how important the calls are to the men and women in training so they use them to their advantage. If your airman's flight isn't progressing as quickly as they should, or if the flight gets into trouble their TI may take away their phone privileges. My son's sister flight had their phone privileges suspended several times during their stay at Lackland. On the flip side don't be surprised if you hear from your airman unexpectedly-the MTI's like to use the calls as a reward when the flight does well.

It's important to remember that you can't call your airman while he or she is gone. If your airman had their own cell phone it gets locked up during the week so it is useless to try to call them on it. And don't even think about calling the base! You could get your airman in trouble. If there is an emergency such as a death in the family, contact your local Red Cross. They will be able to relay the message through the proper military chain of command and your airman will call YOU.

Writing Your Airman

Don't ever underestimate the effect your letters have on your airman. Most of them are away from home for the very first time and cherish the mail they receive. During mail call the MTI usually gathers the entire flight into the day room and distributes any mail the flight receives (my TI loved to throw our mail at us so she could watch us excitedly scramble to scoop it up).

All trainees are provided with a mailing address when they reach the base and families and loved ones normally receive a postcard containing that information within the first week of training.

Your airman's address will be in the following format:

AB Last Name, First Name, Middle Initial

# # TRS / FLT # # # (Dorm "Letter"-#)

1320 Truemper Street Unit 36 # # # #

Lackland AFB, TX 78236-# # # # (zip extension)

Rhett getting his blues.
Rhett getting his blues.
Gas chamber instruction.
Gas chamber instruction.
Rhett exiting the gas chamber. Recruits have to hold out their arms so they aren't tempted to rub their eyes.
Rhett exiting the gas chamber. Recruits have to hold out their arms so they aren't tempted to rub their eyes.
Fun with pugil sticks.
Fun with pugil sticks.
Let's play fair.
Let's play fair.
My husband and son during grad week.
My husband and son during grad week.

Your Airmans Activities-Week By Week

Your airman is going through rigorous training in his attempt to become a member of the United States Air Force. His weekly training breaks down like this:

  • 0 Week-Your airman receives his first military haircut and uniforms, is a assigned a flight and training instructor, and tries to settle into his new temporary home. He also begins a vigorous exercise program.
  • Week 1-During his first full week at basic training your airman learns what's expected of him in the upcoming weeks. He learns how to make his bed properly, how to fold his clothes properly, the proper way to clean the bay, how to march properly, and how to behave at all times. It's a stressful week. To top it off he will receive a battery of shots that may possibly make him sick. My son said the majority of his flight was sick this week.
  • Week 2-During week 2 your airman receives his m-16. He is expected to keep his weapon with him and keep it clean at all times. He is required to learn how to break the weapon down and reassemble it in a certain time period. His PT, (physical training) intensifies and he will be running several miles a day.
  • Week 3-During week 3 your airman learns basic first aid during buddy care training.
  • Week 4- Week 4 is an exciting week. Your airman gets to experience the confidence course and enter the bases "gas chamber". The confidence course is filled with obstacles that your airmen is expected to overcome. It's an action packed, fun day. My son's flight was unable to complete the course due to bad weather and he was very disappointed because there was no way to make it up.
  • During this week your airman also receives training in chemical warfare and enters the gas chamber. It's an experience he will never forget.
  • Week 5-During week 5 your airman learns self defense and gets to beat the tar out of one of his fellow trainees with a pugil stick. He also learns CPR and participates in "live fire" exercises with an M-16.
  • Week 6-Week 6 is "Beast Week". During beast week your airman will be living in the field. He will live in his "battle rattle" and practice all of the skills he learned during the previous weeks. He will also receive his dog tags.
  • Week 7- During week 7 your airman takes his end of training exam and begins preparing to graduate and leave the base.
  • Week 8- Week 8 is graduation week. Families and loved ones are invited onto the base to witness several exciting ceremonies. The Airman's Run and Coin Ceremony are held on Thursday. During the run your airman runs with his entire flight singing cadences-it's exciting and I was so proud to see my son. They go back to their dorms to change then proceed to the field for the coin ceremony. A word to the wise-if you want to be able to see the ceremony, get a seat in the stands early-they go very quickly. At the end of the coin ceremony you are able to "tap out" your airman and spend the rest of the day with him on base. I was given the privilege of tapping out my son. I was able to go onto the parade field after the ceremony and tap my son on the shoulder. He had to be tapped before he was allowed to leave the field. His first words to me where, "What took you so long I've been standing here forever!" We spent the rest of the day eating pizza at the "GodFathers" on base, visiting the base bx and watching a movie at the movie theater. Your airman officially graduates on Friday and after the ceremony he gets his first town pass. We spent the afternoon at our hotel. Rhett just wanted to relax and sit by the pool. He also wanted a steak so we went to Logans for dinner. Airmen normally receive town passes on Saturday as well and many of them visit the Riverwalk and Sea World. (Graduating airmen and their families get free admission to Sea World). We spent Saturday afternoon at the Riverwalk and the evening at the San Antonio Spurs basketball game. Another word to the wise-if you go during basketball season someone from the Spurs comes to the base and sell you "special" military tickets. Don't spend too much money-THE SEATS SUCK! My husband spent way too much on the tickets thinking we would have good seats and they were awful-nose bleed section. We were really disappointed (but happy to be with our son).

Facebook

Facebook has groups that are specifically designed to help new Air Force families get through the long weeks of basic training. The two that I found were most helpful were Air Force Wing Moms and Air Force Basic Military Training.

Air Force Wing Moms is a totally awesome group of individuals who are more than happy to answer any questions you have regarding BMTS. Their wall provides a ton of information regarding everything and anything you may want to know about basic training and traveling to San Antonio during graduation week. Air Force Wing Moms also sets up flight specific pages where you can communicate with the families of the members of your son's or daughter's flight.

The Air Force Basic Military Training wall is another great way to get information about your airman and your airman's flight. They post pictures of your airman during BMTS-usually by their 4th or 5th week of training. I was so thankful for the pictures they posted of my son when he was gone. It eased my mind to see that he was happy and well taken care of.

Good Luck

Air Force Basic Training is a stressful time for the loved ones of the individuals who have made the honorable choice to serve their country. If you have a loved one who has just left or is leaving for Lackland Air Force Base it may seem like the 8.5 weeks of BMT drags on and on and last forever. If I've just described you keep your chin up, graduation week will be here before you know it and the pride you will feel when you see your Airman in his/her dress blues for the first time will erase all of the anxiety you felt during the previous 8.5 weeks.

I hope you find this hub helpful. Don't hesitate to leave a comment or ask a question. Oh-if you are planning to go to San Antonio I highly recommend you stay at the Microtel Inn and Suites. It is located between Lackland AFB and Sea World in a really nice part of town. The rooms and service are great-and you can't beat the price.

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        JEANETTE HENDERSON 3 days ago

        Thank you for this! I will be sending my son off to basic training around the same time my husband leaves for an 8 month deployment in the middle east. I'm so proud of them both, but I know it'll hit me like a ton of bricks when the time arrives!! Thank you for the resources!!

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        Heather Cruz 13 days ago

        I needed to see something like this. My son shipped out yesterday and I am having the worst time coping. It so hard its indescribable.

        I am so sick with worry even though I am super proud. I cant wait for July to arrive

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        xiomara serrano 2 weeks ago

        thank you so much for this post! my son is in process of joining and as a mom its a bitter/sweet// super proud of him but emoptional . i love him so much ! watching him blossom to the young men he is becoming makes me smile. he just turned 20 and wants to be a An Airman. And i appluad and support his efforts. May god bless him and all the new air man. thank you! for ever grateful.

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        Elise Ryan 4 weeks ago

        Thank you for this info, it really helped!! My question is... I got a quick phone call from my son with his address and really quickly said we can send him care packages and he listed the items I can send but I couldn’t catch what he said. Do you know what I can send?

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        Regena Dawson 2 months ago

        Thank you so much for this information. We are new to the military way of life and totally clueless. The FB groups you recommended and the information about week to week activities were awesome.

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        Maria Roberts 2 months ago

        My son is leaving tomorrow. I’m so happy for him but I’m a mess. I can’t wait to see the positive changes in him though.

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        Jeff Hale 3 months ago

        My son is on his way there as I’m typing this. god bless all that is serving and about too start.

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        Andrea 3 months ago

        Thank you so much for sharing and for your family's service. Our son ships out next week and there is so much that we don't know, or didn't until now. I am already looking forward to his graduation. Blessings to you and your family!

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        emily 3 months ago

        Hey, I was wondering how am I supposed to go about getting on the base? I’m unable to rent a car because I’m only 18 and I’m flying from Georgia. Help?

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        sharon t 3 months ago

        thank you for sharing, we are not a military family and my son enlisted today, but won't be leaving until the fall due to work commitments, the people I met today at the oath ceremony couldn't have been nicer (AF Reserves), he scored really well on his testing and had his choice of jobs. All introduced themselves and remarked how happy they were that he'd chosen jet propulsion. And all the guys from the 'shop' (his recruiter spent the day with him last week touring all the jobs on the base) came over to watch his oath. As nervous as I was, they all made me feel a whole lot better. They also are allowing him to train 1x per month until he goes to be better prepared for boot camp. His roommate has been in for 7 years so he's well prepared (he studied for the test for 9 months!) and should be fine, it's hard being a mom!!!

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        mikicagle 3 months ago from Oklahoma

        I hope he chooses the USAF. It has been good for my family.

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        Leland Johnson 3 months ago from Midland MI

        This was a super hub. Thank you for writing it. I am encouraging my son to consider the Air Force. I was Army but think he would be a perfect fit for the AF. I don't think I'll appreciate how hard it is to have him away until he goes. Thanks again.

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        sheila 3 months ago

        What do you think of the Embassy Suites?

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        Beryl johnson 4 months ago

        My son went in the first week in febuary when do I get the first phone call worried

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        Chris Murray 4 months ago

        So hard.....

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        THuff 4 months ago

        The 2nd facebook link isn't working, and I don't find a page with that exact name. You mentioned it would post pics during but. Can you help?

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        jesusa 4 months ago

        Thank you for sharing ... My whole family is so excited for the upcoming graduation week. I have read your words of encouragement and made me feel at ease now...Thanks again and thank you for your service.

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        Jennifer 4 months ago

        Thank you for sharing these words of encouragement! We are just beginning this journey with our son, such an honor and thank you for your service as well

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        Kristal 4 months ago

        Thank you for sharing your experience. My son has decided to join and I'm gathering all the information I can on what to expect!

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        Neece 4 months ago

        Loved to read this, thank you for sharing!

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        WB 5 months ago

        My son left last week. I’m a young mom & this is the 1st time we are apart. I’m a mess but I know this is an amazing opportunity for him and he’s extremely excited. Thank you so much for your great advice and useful information. It calmed my crazy mom nerves.

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        David 5 months ago

        My son leaves the first week of February 2018. At what time will we know the weekend he will graduate? I will need book airplane tickets and accommodations. Thanks your information has been very helpful.

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        Laurie 5 months ago

        My son just left Tuesday for BMT. The week by week info is very helpful for a worried parent. Thanks so much!

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        mikicagle 5 months ago from Oklahoma

        I am glad you found this article helpful. I hope you are proud of your son, he is doing a wonderful thing.

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        wanda 5 months ago

        My son left on January 2 2018. I'm kind of anxious, but your info was very helpful.

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        mikicagle 5 months ago from Oklahoma

        I wish both of you the best. My son has been in the service for several years now. It has been a wonderful experience for him.

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        Stefanie 5 months ago

        Thank you for all this information, My son leaves January 30th.

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        Corrie 6 months ago

        I see a few parents whose son leaves on the 19th. We just found out Wednesday. So nervous

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        Cyndy 6 months ago

        Thank you for sharing my little sister shipped out 11-14-17 and I have yet to hear from her. So this helps out so much!

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        Marcie 6 months ago

        Thank you for sharing. My son ships out on Dec. 19. I am so nervous and feel as if I may have a panic attack when I really think about it. I've been trying to find as much information as possible to prepare myself. This article was very helpful. Thanks again!

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        SMSgt(Ret) Hank 7 months ago

        Thanks for this! It was 88 when I joined, a lot has changed. Our son,20, ships on Tuesday, Cyber Transport Systems. Grads Jan 4th, debating wearing service dress, or suit.

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        Cathy 7 months ago

        Thank you so much for sharing!

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        Tracey Adams 7 months ago

        Does the BMT facebook page still post pictures of the trainees? It doesn't look like an active page, with the last pictures posted being in July, 2017. My daughter shipped 10/31, so just trying to navigate my way around seeing what's out there. Your article was very helpful!

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        Daphne 7 months ago

        Kelly- my son found out today he ships December 19th as well. I am a basket case.

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        Kelly 8 months ago

        Thank you so much for your article. My son doesn't leave until December 19th but I'm such a mess. Lackland is a thousand miles away and I've never gone more than a week or so without seeing my son much less months. Knowing a little about what he'll be doing each week I hope will be helpful for me. Thank you for your service and for your families as well.

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        Dan 8 months ago

        What you don't say is how to deal with your son flunking out of BMT. Our son scored a 97 on his entrance exam, passed PAST with flying colors. Has been so excited about his future. Then at 6 1/2 weeks we get a phone call. He is being released from service - for sleep walking. He was crushed. Plus, it will take them longer to process him out than to graduate. Immediately removed from his flight, left alone and not allowed to talk with anyone. They keep him busy sweeping floors. Only decent thing they did was allow him to use the gym. No one to keep him company. He was in tears when he used his 1 phone call to let his mother know he wouldnt be graduating. I know the AF is still responsible for him but they need to consider changing policies for people that don't make it due to things they knew nothing about. Of course, we areally just parents! We get told nothing other than what he can say in a short call. How can it possibly take 2 weeks?

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        Angie Culberson 9 months ago

        Thank you so much for this. I am a nervous wreck because I haven't heard from him since he left.

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        Desirae 10 months ago

        Thank u so much for this article I couldn't find one for the longest time that really broke things down and u really just made my life a whole lot better and gave me a better understanding ❤️ THANK YOU SO MUCH !!!!!!

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        Windy 11 months ago

        How were you able to obtain the pics of your son in basic?

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        KT 11 months ago

        Great post! TY

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        Nancy 11 months ago

        Thank you so much for this information. My grandson is leaving for basic training this Sunday and his mother and I are pretty much in the dark about what to expect. Your information is very interesting and helpful.

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        Kim 12 months ago

        Thank you for your service! My son just went to Lackland June 6. We can't wait to go see him for graduation and have some time to spend with him. I do have a question about graduation. We sent in the VARL form for our son to turn in. We had some family members that did not think they would be able to attend but now can go. Is there a way we can get passes for them or can we send the form to the base ourselves or will it have to be through our son? Thanks for the help!

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        Norma 12 months ago

        My son called me with his address two days after he began Basic Training but two weeks later I just received a card with a different FLT #. Should I be concerned?

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        Laurie 12 months ago

        Thank you so much for all of the information! Thank you and your family for your service!

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        mikicagle 12 months ago from Oklahoma

        I think that they go directly to their schooling after graduation weekend. I am not sure how visitation works while in tech school. I know it used to be a 4 week wait-but that was a while ago.

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        Christie 12 months ago

        Thank you for the information! I'm trying to work out my visit for graduation. My boyfriend is set up to work in intelligence. I might not have the ability to go to graduation, is there a time between basic and job training that I would get to see him or is the graduation my last real chance for awhile? I'm nervous about this.

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        Nicole 14 months ago

        Thank for week to week explanation. My son swore in about a month ago and his ship out date wasn't till next month. But he got a call and has been bumped up and leaves Tuesday. We were given 11 days to really prepare. It's been overwhelming. He's my only child and I've never been away from him more than a few days. I look forward to that phone call and every letter he sends. Most importantly, I can't wait to see him in his uniform. I'm learning so much so your info is a life savor. Thank You!!

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        Ashley 15 months ago

        My fiance is curently still on week two until wednesday, is it normal to have only gotten the call about the address? I havent received any letters either.

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        ML Carter 15 months ago

        Thank you so much for this great article. You have really helped us understand what our trainee son is going through. My husband is a veteran but his basic was 41 years ago, very different from what BMTS is like today.

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        Dana 15 months ago

        My son has been gone 2weeks we got the address post card but now got his 1st letter and his return address had a different return address I called the number on the packet lackland reception and they had no information

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        Jim Sands 15 months ago

        Thanks. So helpful!

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        Wanda Drzymala 17 months ago

        A friend of son just joined the Air Force. She was wondering what he was doing. We found your site very informative.

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        Stacy 17 months ago

        GREAT info...thanks for sharing! My son ships out next week. :-(

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        Rooby jean-marie 17 months ago

        Thank you sooo much I could say more but I'm too busy crying my baby girl left for basic training 4wks ago and every insight helps

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        PD 17 months ago

        Very helpful info thanks for all the advice. my son leaves feb 14 and I'm already feeling anxious

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        Susan B 18 months ago

        My son left Monday this week. It's really been hard for us. I enjoyed reading this article. Thank you for all of this information.

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        Loretha 19 months ago

        My son is in basic. What can you send while they are in basic?

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        Patricia Obregon 19 months ago

        Thank you.. I really enjoyed reading your story it gave me some relief of what my son is going through and for myself knowing that about them..

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        Lala Turcios 19 months ago

        My girlfriend recently left for basic 2 days ago and I've been looking just about everything up. This, by far has been the most helpful. Last night, I got the first phone call with her address. I was more than happy but that didn't stop the tears. I really do pray that she stays positive & that these 8.5 weeks go by fast.

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        DB 20 months ago

        Hi, my boyfriend leaves for basic training Tuesday and I'm really sad. All I wanna do is cry but I'm trying to be supportive of him as well, 1) how can I make the time he's in basic training fly by and 2) how can I make convey my love and support to him while he's gone?

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        Peggy Vanderheiden 20 months ago

        I really appreciate all of this information. My son, Joseph, leaves here in just a couple of days, and I am catching myself crying at any point in the day, thinking of him when he was just a little guy. He is my first child to join the military, and I have no idea what I am doing! I don't want to miss a thing! I will probably read this a hundred times over! And thank you for the facebook pages, I will be visiting often!

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        Jody Guthrie 21 months ago

        Preparing......MYSELF.....omg its so hard..... to believe this time has come. My baby is now beginning his life journey, and I am having a terrible time letting him go!! I know they are only ours for a little while, but gees..... lol.

        So proud of my son. He is determined and willing and accepting.... I am proud, joyful and sad....only tears of happiness though. Just hard to know he will not be right here and I am going to run into him somewhere or Hey you wanna go out? Or hey, come over and help me with something...time has flown by.....!!

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        Angie Garia 21 months ago

        Thank you for the most helpful information. My son's graduation will be taking place in September. We have a concern regarding minors (under 18) being able to attend the ceremonies. Do you know of any age restrictions?

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        N Reid 21 months ago

        Thank you for this, my son leaves home today and I thought it was going to be easy! Thanks for sharing this has been informative I will definitely look at the two Facebook pages you recommended. Can they receive care packets while at BMT? God bless you!

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        Julie Reid 22 months ago

        Thank you so much for this it's so useful. I am in the uk my daughter has dual nationality and is hoping to join USAF. The pages you have recommended look great for info and I will join Facebook pages too. Thank you again.

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        Joris Reyes 22 months ago

        I really appreciate very much to stay together as a great and valuable team of Airmen parents who fully support our children. But I think it is strong for them and for us too. It is important to be able to communicate with each other and wait with courage and pride these long weeks.

        Keep our faith together at this time is essential for a successful achievement in our future Airmen, who by his own decision wanted to be a best man and be a part of this great Team of this wonderful country.

        Let's move forward and from our hearts supporting them and give them the necessary forces.

        Thanks for listening, my son have 8 days and have been very long and stressful for us.

        God bless you all!

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        Renee Meyer 22 months ago

        How did you get all those pictures of your son while he was in bmt?

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        Lori 22 months ago

        Great information. I am wondering if airmen can receive anything other than letters during basic. Thanks

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        Kara 23 months ago

        My daughter just entered basic training and I got her first phone call which broke my heart. All the websites say its 8.5 weeks but her graduation date is just a little over 7 weeks from when she went in. Has it changed?

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        Dariana 23 months ago

        I have a sister who is currently in BMT and i was wondering how long it takes her to recieve my cards

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        Robyn 24 months ago

        Thank you! My husband and I are also veterans and were at Basic in the 80's. Our daughter leaves this August.

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        Mikki 2 years ago

        Thank you.

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        Lisa 2 years ago

        Thank you so much for this site!! My daughter "only child" leaves next week. I can't stop crying!! I'm so happy for her because its been a dream for her and she is so excite going. But, I can't think about it without bursting into tears. I don't know how I'm going to say my goodbyes next week!! Your site has helped me because as a mom "you know" I want to know what she is doing every minute of everyday and that she is safe. I'm sure I will be coming back to the site just to refresh on what's going on in a particular week. Also, Mimi I'm so sorry to hear that your brother is sad. I hope as he goes through the next stage of his career things get better. My daughter regretting her decision is my biggest fear. Mommy could always bail her out but not this time. I just prayer it all goes well.

        Thank you again for sharing your time and information.

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        Mimi 2 years ago

        Another thing i forgot to add is, what if it is one of those situations where they realize it's not for them. What are ways to help him cope with it? He didn't say anything like that but he said he just really misses us... Hopefully hes just homesick.

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        Mimi 2 years ago

        Mikicagle,

        When we were with him he'd randomly start crying and we would ask him what was wrong and he'd say he misses us and doesn't want to be away from us. Just the look of sadness in his eyes was very hard for us to see because we were expecting him to show a little more happiness. Him bursting into tears didn't express happiness. I feel so helpless because I'm not sure if hes emotionally stressed or just really really homesick. That's why I wanted to ask if this is normal or if anybody has been in this same situation. I will suggest him to speak to a chaplain.

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        mikicagle 2 years ago from Oklahoma

        Emily I am sorry I didn't get back to you earlier and I hope that you had your issues with travel resolved.

        Mimi-graduation is usually a joyful event filled with fun and anticipation of the next step in an airman's career. How does your brother feel? I know being homesick is a normal reaction to being away, but he will be able to take leave and visit as soon as his tech school is over. If his feelings become overwhelming he needs to speak with someone. He needs to be proud of himself for getting through basic training, but honestly the military isn't for everyone. If he feels emotionally stressed there are avenues he can use to help with his feelings. Have him speak to a chaplain-that may help and he will be able to point your brother in the right direction.

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        Mimi 2 years ago

        Throat*

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        Mimi 2 years ago

        Hello,

        My younger brother just graduated from BMT. Those 8.5 weeks were very tough because my family and I missed him dearly, especially during the holidays. Right now I am worried because I thought seeing him during graduation would make it all better but it didn't. If anything I am very worried about him because it seems like he's extremely homesick. Most of our trip consisted of knots in our throwts & tears. I am concerned about his emotional well being. I don't want him to be sad because it's breaking my heart. Does anybody else relate to my situation? Did your airman look sad during graduation week?

        Mimi, a worried sister

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        Emily de Luna 2 years ago

        Hello! I read your article.

        I'm worried. I'm just his girlfriend. But I haven't heard anything yet from him. And I'm assuming his father got the mailing address, but I'm not in contact with him.

        I emailed the base; I'm really hoping they'll get back to me in a timely manner as my issue is time sensitive.

        I want to go to his graduation. But I haven't given him any information ( like drivers license info) and he hasn't called. How will he be able to send me the visitors access pass?

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        mikicagle 2 years ago from Oklahoma

        I am so grateful that you all find this article helpful. The experience of your loved one leaving for basic training can be traumatic, and writing this article really helped me see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank all of you for the sacrifices your families are making for our country.

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        Kimberly 2 years ago

        Oh my goodness,

        Thank you for the information. My Son is in the process of enlisting. He goes for his physical next week, it will be March before he leaves. Reading through all this information, there are many tears. I can't seem to stop them these days. It is all pretty overwhelming, there is a lot of pride involved, and a lot of it is just being a Mom, and this is my only Child.

        I have watched many videos and I am thankful for people like you, willing to share and help prepare us Moms :)

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        Madelyne 2 years ago

        Thank you so much for this blog. My husband is leaving for basic training at the end of this month. It's been a little emotional for me because I am 23 weeks pregnant and will be about 35 weeks when he graduates. He will be in technical school when our daughter is born, and for the first few weeks of her life. I know many people have had it worse and that's the life of the military but I'm still very anxious and heartbroken. Your page helped me feel a little bit better about what he's doing and I know it will be good for our family in the long run.

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        Maria 2 years ago

        As a fellow veteran, I also thought that I'd be okay when our daughter left for BMT. This experience has been tougher than I could have ever imagined! I want to let you know how much I've appreciated your article. It's good to know that I'm not the only person that is experiencing these sad emotions. God bless you, the new troops and all of our military families. God bless our beautiful nation!

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        Vnash 2 years ago

        I can't begin to explain to you how much of a gift this information is to my husband and I!! Thank you! Really...thank you!

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        Aflores 3 years ago

        Very useful info thank you. Can anyone tell me what time the coin ceremony begins?

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        Becky 3 years ago

        Thank you so much for your website. It has been extremely helpful and encouraging. My son left last week and it's been harder than I thought to have him gone. The hardest part is not being able to communicate except by letters, but I pray for him every day and know he is in God's hands. Really looking forward to graduation and seeing him again. Thanks again and God bless you!

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        mikicagle 3 years ago from Oklahoma

        Tia you can write your airman any time. He will get the letters eventually. Thank you Elaina for your kind words.

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        Elaina 3 years ago

        Thank you for this useful information, my airman (boyfriend) just left and I wonder what goes on for him and some information which I felt you basically covered, making me more reassured everything will be fine! Thank you again!

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        Tia 3 years ago

        What week are the airmen able to write and receive letters in BMT?

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        mikicagle 3 years ago from Oklahoma

        No, he will go straight to his tech school. The good thing about that though is you can visit him.

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        gary 3 years ago

        Your welcome, but the thankfulness is all mine. After the recruits finish BMT do they get leave time to come home or do they go right to there tech school? He was under the impression that he would get a week or two to come home.

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        mikicagle 3 years ago from Oklahoma

        Thank you for your kind words Gary. It sounds like Jacob is turning out to be a good man and the credit goes to your for raising him. It's ok to be a mess when your son is in basic. It's hard on everyone. The good thing is that it isn't forever and before you know it you will be at his graduation ceremony.

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        gary 3 years ago

        My son Jacob left Tuesday for his BMT. He got a call from his recruiter on Friday morning telling him he will be leaving within 2 months. That afternoon as we sat in car his recruiter called and said that he will be leaving that Tuesday, if he was ready. His first concern was for me "dad, you going to be OK" of course I said yes and it was time for him to accept lives challenges. He moved in with me 5 years ago and haven't gone a day without seeing each other or a phone call. I know it sounds weird but he was and is my best friend, but he always has respect for the line of me being his parent. As a dad I felt I should be the strong one and that my emotions would and should be in check, but find myself a mess...lol. I hope it does get easier for him, because that first phone call was such a heartbreaker. The last words before leaving was "I got this". But the phone call was as confident, with him saying he was a little homesick. Its comforting to know that he will be better and I'm so thankful to have found your sight.

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        mikicagle 3 years ago from Oklahoma

        Oh no Sandy. I feel so bad for you. It would help him so much if you would write him as much as you can, I know from experience how much it is appreciated. Write him everyday if you want to-you should start hearing back from him in a short time. Go to FB and join the AF Wingmom's page-it does help talking to others who are going through the same thing you are.

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        Sandy 3 years ago

        My dear son Trevor left this past monday it has been him and I for 11 yrs I miss him so much and work at State Farm Just started trying to study for my final exam to be an agent my mind is crazy I really have no one I am so sad

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        mikicagle 3 years ago from Oklahoma

        T Gregory-I was stationed at Keesler in Mississippi and Tyndall in Florida. The time I spent in the AF were some of the best of my life. Your son is in for an incredible journey and have the right to be very proud of him.

        Tanya I am glad you got your call. I know I felt a lot better once I heard from my son. Keep checking back with AF Wingmom's on Facebook and before you know it you will see pictures of him during training. I was so excited when I saw my son's pictures-and it helped me see that he was doing just fine.

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        Tanya 3 years ago

        Thank you so much for this site!!! The first phone call happened just as this site said it would..called the next day and only had 5mins to give address and that he was there safe..he was talking so fast but I didn't care...held on to every word...don't think I have felt so much joy and overwhelming feelings in a long time...thanks again.. #finallyfeelingpeaceful

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        T Gregory 3 years ago

        Thanks for making this site. My son just got his date and is due to leave March 10th and since its still lil early we don't have much information coming our way yet, so this site really helps. Lil anxious but know this is a dream he has and am just placing him in Gods hands. No mother likes to think of the rough/tough things that they are going to intentionally do to your child to push them to the limits but will admit that I am anxious for him to learn how to fold and organize his clothes :)

        We have a lot of similarities. My husband was in the AF in the 80s (later 80s), we just had our 25th anniversary and also have two children around the same age with the youngest being 19 and the new recruit. Did you happen to ever be stationed at FE Warren between 1989-1993?

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        mikicagle 3 years ago from Oklahoma

        You are so very welcome. I wish you all good luck.

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        ashleycw 3 years ago

        My best friend ships out on Tuesday on a last minute assignment. It has been very stressful with the unknown. I am glad I came across your website as it has put me at ease a little bit. Hoping everything goes smoothly. Thank you for all your advice!

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